Award winning civil celebrancy

Award winning civil celebrancy

I don’t claim to remember every single Funeral I’ve led – that would be dishonest!

Posted: December 6th 2018

“You might not remember me but you did my Mum’s service a few years ago……” I’m often approached by people to lead a service for them because I’ve supported them in the past…..and this is the kind of opening line to the conversation! I don’t claim to remember every single Funeral that I’ve ever led.
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Why some of the oldest poems are the best!

Posted: December 4th 2018

Working in the funeral industry means that the longer you do your role, the greater your repertoire of resources becomes.  My catalogue of ‘Go To’ material just keeps growing and growing. I’m always on the look out for new readings, prayers or poems and just different ways of getting a message across.  Sometimes I’ll use
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Been asked to lead a Eulogy?….then you’ll need my 7 Top Tips!

Posted: November 28th 2018

If you’ve ever been asked to say a few words at a funeral, or to lead a eulogy for someone’s life – then no doubt, you’ll remember that feeling only too well! It’s not something we get asked to do everyday.  And yet we know it’s the last thing we can do for someone who’s
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My end of the week thought!

Posted: November 25th 2018

My end of the week thought as I step into a new week? “When you go to a Funeral to say your last goodbyes to someone, hold onto the fact that you’re there representing all of those hundreds and thousands of people who’ve passed through that person’s life. I was gently reminded of this as
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“I am the frost that nips your toes!”

Posted: November 18th 2018

There’s a well known Funeral poem called ‘Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep’. It’s by Mary Elizabeth Frye and if you google it, it’ll come up easily on your search. Well here’s another take on that poem that I once used. I like both versions for very different reasons but I find this
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“….for your tomorrow, we gave our today.”

Posted: November 11th 2018

“They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old: Age shall not weary them, nor the years contemn. At the going down of the sun and in the morning We will remember them. We will remember them. When you go home, tell them of us and say, for your tomorrow, we gave
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Losing our friends.

Posted: November 8th 2018

This week I’ve been leading services for people who had many great friends around them. What’s struck me in my conversations, is how everything changes when you lose a friend from your circle.  I remembered this poem which I came across a few months ago and it just seemed to fit with this week’s emotions.
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Long live the hymn book!

Posted: November 4th 2018

This is my trusted book of Funeral hymns that you’ll find in almost every crematorium that you walk into. If we have printed Service Sheets to hand out, then you’ll always find the words to the hymns printed in there for you.  But someone told me recently how they much preferred to stand up and
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Why I’m so chuffed when a ‘Thank You’ card arrives!

Posted: October 22nd 2018

We’ve just got back from a few days in Yorkshire and I’ve returned home to these two cards. They both came after Funerals that I’d led before I went away.  The one on the left has these heart warming words inside: “Carole………….we want to thank you from the bottom of our hearts, for such a
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Close the curtains or keep them open – the choice really is yours.

Posted: August 15th 2018

Every crematorium works differently. They all have timed sessions that we have to work within – some allow half an hour, some 40 minutes and some give us 45 minutes with which to lead a Funeral. The other important factor is how we handle ‘The Committal’ process – that Final Goodbye. In some chapels you
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